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I just finished reading this book about the difference that birth order makes on your personality.  well, to put it more precisely, the book I was reading was about first born children and their specific strengths and weaknesses, so the information on other birth orders was pretty scant.   that said, it was still an interesting read and it made me think about arashi and dbsk's personalities based on their birth orders.  i think we look at blood type, horoscopes, zodiac etc. to determine personality traits, but we rarely look at birth order, and that, frankly, is a much more scientifically sound basis for determining one's personality, in my opinion. 

first, let's look at the different personality types.  Credit to "The First Born Advantage" by Dr. Kevin Leman.

First borns and only children are:
-black-and-white thinkers
- keen sense of what is right and wrong and believe in a "right way" to do things
-natural leaders and achievement oriented
-can be bossy, hypercritical (of self and others), perfectionist, not sympathetic, feel over-pressured and hurtful of others' feelings
-most difficult to pin down
-opposite of the child above them in the family
-competitive, loyal, big on friendship
-negotiators, peace-keepers
-can lack in ambition, be a bit wishy-washy
-social, outgoing
-high on people skills
- can be irresponsible, low on initiative, irreverent, frivolous
Now, the book does say that it's not just birth order but more about if you have other siblings of your sex.  so even if you are a last-born, if you are the first son, you are going to have some first-born traits.  Also, I think it's really interesting to think about the interaction between their innate personalities formed by their family structure and the personalities they take on according to their position in the group.  For instance, Ohno is the big brother of Arashi but is actually a baby in his own family.  
So, with that in mind, let's look at the members of Arashi and DBSK.
Arashi is split between 2 first borns (Sho with 1 younger sister and 1 younger brother and Aiba with 1 younger brother) and 3 babies (Jun, Nino and Ohno all have one older sister each).  While we can't be pinned down just by our personality types, I do think Aiba and Sho have similarities that they don't quite share with the other members.  Sho clearly fits the profile of a first-born (ambitious, organized etc.).  He is a first born in his own family and is second-oldest in Arashi, after Ohno.  I think Sho acts younger-brother-ish (or at the most same-age-ish) to Ohno.  He definitely doesn't treat him like he's younger than him.  Sho has said that Ohno is a senpai and will always be a senpai to him.  I think Sho respects Ohno a great deal and assumes the role of de facto leader only because he feels Ohno's blessing.  As for Aiba,  even though Aiba might at first glance seem a bit all over the place, I think he is a lot more caring and protective and encouraging towards his members than people give him credit for.  He often yields to the other members (especially Jun and Nino, who are younger than him) and indulge them in a rather big-brotherly way.  As for the babies, they really do seem all over the place and don't seem to fit the "baby" personality really well.  That said, I stand by my observation that Sho and Aiba definitely have a somewhat different vibe than the rest of the group.  Somehow, they seem more protective, more paternal than the other members, who, ambitious or driven as they may be, still somehow exude a self-centeredness (I don't mean this critically) that may come from their status as the babies of their families.  Like, I have always thought that Ohno is actually pretty self-centered.  I don't mean he's selfish, I just mean his focus is on his self.  He's admitted that he is probably an S because he can't really adjust to other people's paces.  And everything he does is out of a struggle with his self.  It's always a battle with himself, he says.  (this doesn't translate well into English - he doesn't mean he's internally conflicted.  It just means he isn't competing with anyone other than his own self.)  I don't know, maybe it's because it is not true, but I just can't imagine Jun, Nino or Ohno being a big brother whereas Aiba and Sho I can.  No matter how crazy Aiba might seem, when I hear him talk fondly, protectively and a bit paternally about his younger brother, it makes sense.  And no matter how driven and ambitious Jun seems, when I hear him talking about his big sister, I can imagine how he would have grown up under the influence of two stronger females in his household.  Their common status as being first-borns might explain the bizzare friendship that Aiba and Sho have.  
As for DBSK, we have three firstborns (Yunho, who has a younger sister, Changmin, who I believe has two younger sisters, and Yoochun, who has a younger brother) and two babies (Junsu, whose twin brother acted as his older brother, and Jae who has like a bazillion older sisters - i know Jae has a biological younger sister but because we are talking about developmental psychology, what matters is who he grew up with).  Again, Yunho is a firstborn in real life and is second oldest after Jae and so he fits pretty squarely into the firstborn personality type.  Jae, on the other hand, is pretty clearly a baby and that's probably one of the reasons he wasn't named leader even though he is the oldest.  I think Changmin also clearly acts like a first-born, and Junsu very clearly acts like a baby.  Yoochun is the enigma in this group.  Yoochun might be one of the "failed" (please take those as HUGE quotation marks) firstborns.   Firstborns are subjected to enormous pressure from day one, and that pressure causes some to become discouraged and feel incapable of rising to the challenge.  Yoochun has expressed how he felt like he failed as an older brother when he left his mother and younger brother back in the U.S. when he joined SM.  I think that event might have really scarred Yoochun, causing him to react against his own firstborn tendencies and become frivolous and irreverent.  I am not saying Yoochun is either of these things, but just using them to indicate where he would lie on the spectrum.  Between uptight and lacking in any sense of humor to frivolous and irreverent, Yoochun definitely is more the latter.  I think Jae and Junsu's shared status as being the babies in their families might be why these two seem to butt heads the most in the group.  They both have strong senses of self and are used to being the center of attention.  Whereas Yoochun, Changmin and Yunho had to learn how to step back and relent, Jae and Junsu share a certain stubbornness that might come from them being spoiled as the babies of their families. 
Hmmm, this was an interesting exercise.  Sorry it's a bit all over the place and doesn't really flow well narratively.
Now, what birth order do you think I, this blog author, am?


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Apr. 3rd, 2011 09:50 am (UTC)
hiii~ i really missed your analysis XDDD

and im glad i wasn't the only one who think so abt ohno.. tho i do believe he is kind etc, but he gives out this aloof and self-thinking person to me.

there were alot of time when i thought that ohno is a man who put himself first than anyone else. it might sound bad tho i don see the wrong in it since many ppl do put themselves first.

for dbsk, i havta say yunho fit the firsborn category perfectly. tho he might have some middleborns qualities.

i do some analysis of my own but i rarely write my thoughts down >__<

can't wait for ur next post :DDD
Apr. 4th, 2011 10:09 pm (UTC)
thanks for the comment and for sharing your own observations. it's good to hear there are people waiting to hear my really sporadic and random analyses!

i am surprised by how many people seem to agree with me on the point of Ohno being self-centered. It's interesting because I think Japanese fans would not feel the same way. I think that might be because putting one self as the center of one's efforts is not respected in Japan.

thanks again for your comment! i hope to write again soon!
Apr. 3rd, 2011 11:19 am (UTC)
Hejhejjjj! Long time no read, good to know you haven't given up on us. I trust your law(yer) career is going well?

Yeah, the birth order thing is really interesting. I recently read a Recomen (YokoHina) transcript where Yoko talked about how he can totally tell what number child each of the Kanjani members are by how they behave. As for you, for some reason I thought you were an only child, but assuming you are not I'd say you're the eldest.

Something random you might enjoy.
Apr. 4th, 2011 10:11 pm (UTC)
hey yeah, sorry for the LOOOOONG blank. my law school career is coming to an end but because of the classes I ended up taking, it is a lot busier than I wanted it to be, which kinda sucks.

thanks for the link! that is SO awesome. I love how much effort Japanese people will put into making something really awesome but totally random. i wonder how they got the timing right - like how they controlled the speed with which the ball would fall.

and yes, i am the eldest! one younger brother.
Apr. 3rd, 2011 12:46 pm (UTC)
Apr. 4th, 2011 10:11 pm (UTC)
hey i owe you a response to your e-mails. so much work and i hate my life right now. :-(
Apr. 7th, 2011 05:47 pm (UTC)
don't worry i know you're busy! and aww don't hate your life :((

i haven't been sending proper emails to you either! haha. just snippets. we need a good long talk.

another earthquake happened just now. not helping my headache at all. been retweeting and translating stuff on twitter. time to sleep!
Apr. 4th, 2011 12:46 am (UTC)
hehehe! YOU! YOU!!! *twirls and hugs!* I have that photo of your friend taking a photo of you taking a photo of lunch and I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!!

I am number two. Four of us, all girls. Throw into the mix Malay ethnicity and Indonesian heritage.

No. 1 treated like a princess, could do no wrong. This is not sibling rivalry speaking (not any more at least), but fact. ^_~ Unfortunately she did do lots wrong and the only thing she is is bossy. Is completely clueless. Hah!

two middle borns me and no.3 yes we are more free spirited. Me in a less tangible way and she in a more wanderlust way. Defintiely wishy washy and ...and everything except the competitive bit I guess. But that's just probably me.

Our baby is the most like our no.1 though. BUT having said that having a no.1 like we did ... yup that would definitely screw up the order a little. Mostly I spent life being the big sister to no.3 and 4 that no.1 was not, and then no.4 decided that someone had to take care of the family ... and so it was that no.4 is no.1, nos.2 and 3 are happy being where we are and occasionally I still play big sister. ^__^

Nice to see your long long thoughts again, we have missed it, even if I have nothing intelligent to add back.
Apr. 4th, 2011 10:14 pm (UTC)
hey you~!!! haha i remember taking that photo lol. ahhhh good times, I wish I could be back in Asia RIGHT NOW.

I remember you telling me about your sister and stuff. Siblings are such special people, don't you think? I can't imagine what kind of person I would have turned out to be had I not grown up with a younger brother.

and shush, i love your comments, intelligent or not!
Apr. 4th, 2011 09:12 pm (UTC)
first born....am I right?
Apr. 4th, 2011 10:15 pm (UTC)
*insert fanfare* yes, you are right, I am a first-born. The fact that I bought a book about first borns is a pretty big hint, though, huh lol?

thanks for your comment and for participating in this little quiz!
Jun. 17th, 2011 08:07 pm (UTC)
i'm a random reader and your analysis is really interesting.
hmm..i think you are firstborn?
as you said,jae and junsu are really babies :D
is there also something like that with individual child?
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